Building From Your Design: Confronting the Beliefs Blocking Your Path [Episode 3 of 4]

Intro/Outro: [00:00:00] After generating over a million dollars in sales and selling one of her businesses with a single email, your host Kathryn Thompson, takes an unconventional approach to marketing and sales. So if you are ready to tap into a more powerful way to be seen, heard, and a Sought after Entrepreneur in your industry without having to spend endless hours marketing your business and chasing clients, you are in the right place.

Be The Sought After Entrepreneur Podcast is here to help you ditch the cookie cutter one size fits all approach to marketing, and use your unique energy to effortlessly attract the most aligned clients when you do this. You can spend less time marketing your business and more time doing your soul work and enjoying the richness of your life.

Welcome to Be The Sought After Entrepreneur Podcast, and here's your host, Kathryn Thompson.

Kathryn Thompson: Hey. Hey, super stoked that you're tuning this week's episode. I cannot wait till [00:01:00] I'm in today's topic because we are building off of the last two episodes. If you haven't listened to the last two episodes, I highly suggest that you do because this episode is not going to make sense to you. And if you're somebody who is rushing through this process, I invite you to.

Pause for a moment and get really curious about why you're rushing through it, because this is part of the exercise, right? Again, we live in this hyper obsessed world of speed where things have to happen quickly and where we wanna shortcut everything, and we wanna bypass all of the experience that we are really here to have as humans.

If you're bypassing the experience of living. And you're bypassing the experience of creating and building this business that you desire and that you want from alignment, then you're missing the entire point of this process that I'm laying out here for you, [00:02:00] and I promise you that bypassing that. The emotional, the physical, the mental, the spiritual aspect of this in any way, shape or form is only going to lead to more frustration and more difficulty.

And I'm speaking from experience. This isn't me speaking from any level of authority through theory or reading books or anything like that. It's lived experience that I'm sharing with you where I have created success from a foundation. That really wasn't in alignment with who I am, and it wrecked havoc in more ways than not so.

Go back and listen to those episodes. Take your time with it, and really spend time contemplating these. Now, if you are in financial stress or you're feeling like you need to attract clients like today, then I mentioned on the first episode. This process might take you a little [00:03:00] longer because this process isn't designed to fix that problem in your reality.

And if you're escaping or you are in survival, this process is gonna feel grueling because it's not gonna feel fast enough, and you're gonna be in a place of desperation. And when we're in that place of desperation and that place of survival and scarcity. Then we often sacrifice our alignment for financial security, and so I recommend having some sort of financial grounding and that might require you to get a job or do something that you don't really want to do.

But again, in the manifestation world, in the spiritual world, there's lots of spiritual bypassing and that's one of them, right? Well, I'm just never gonna do anything that's out of alignment because if I do, then I won't manifest what I want and that's bullshit. Right, like you have to take care of your basic needs.

Otherwise, you'll just continually [00:04:00] perpetuate the cycle of sacrificing alignment for financial security. So the process that I'm laying out and have been laying out over the last two episodes is really helping you create the foundation in your business and or new venture and or evolution of your business.

That's gonna come from a place of pure alignment, which means I'm not telling you what to do, which means. The exercises I'm inviting you to do are ones that you have to do in contemplation, and if your brain is stuck in, well, I don't know. I don't know, I don't know, then that means there's conditioning going on in your brain that's preventing you from actually sitting in contemplation.

You can't get this wrong, right? If you sit in contemplation and you listen truly. And I've given you many examples on those episodes to go out and live and experience life. 'cause that's what this is about. This isn't about sitting in your house mentally thinking about all of the things I've been [00:05:00] laying out for you.

This is about living your life through experience and through that experience and through that response. Things will come to you, I promise you, I promise you that. But you have to be patient. You have to be willing to do the work, and you have to be willing to sit with the uncomfortable feeling of maybe not knowing and maybe not having all of the answers.

This is part of the process. So on day one, I got you to write down all of the doubts and fears and limiting thoughts that were coming up around. All of the ways in which you've created success in your life to date and why that success, those clues to your success and the way you manifest success, and the way you create success, why that's not transferrable in this new venture that you're wanting to pursue and or in this evolution of your business.

I want you to take that list now, and I want you to think [00:06:00] about and pull forward the list that we worked on on the last episode where we talked about the things that you wanted. How do you want to be in this world? How do you want to express, how do you want to show up? We talked about time where you spending most of your time?

Why are you spending your time on that? We talked about what you wanna receive in order to be able to live in expression of who you are and what you want, and also allow you to spend the time on the things that really matter to you. We talked about how most money conversations are not tied to those things that most promises that are out.

There are these artificial numbers that are some sort of form or measurement of success that. I don't know who made up, but people made up 10 K months, 70 5K months, a hundred K months. And that often we are outsourcing what we think we need to receive in order to be successful. I need that 10 K month, I need that 70 [00:07:00] 5K month.

I need that a hundred K month. And the reality is we chase the money and then we do that in sacrificing our creative expression and our time. And the money piece to me is very factual. Very factual in that if you're wanting to spend the vast majority of your days with your kiddos, then you've gotta create something that allows you to do that.

For many of us, that 70 5K month or the a hundred K month or whatever it is, isn't anything we even want to anyways. And I asked you to go out and experience life, not sit in your house and just make a list, right? Because usually for many of us, it's arbitrary. It doesn't mean anything. There's no meaning to it.

And so we'll never create it, which is why many people stay looped 'cause they're like, oh, I think I should want 10 K, or I'll just write to down 10 K. 'cause she's asking me what my goal is. But I have no emotional, no soul connection to that in any way. So. I'm gonna [00:08:00] sabotage it every way I can, or I'm just not gonna do it because I'm not motivated.

I'm not intrinsically motivated to actually achieve it. And if I'm not intrinsically motivated, I'm not doing it right. I'm not doing it. It's same if you were to say you wanted to feel better in your body and maybe you want to lose 10 pounds or whatever it is. And what's the real reason underneath why wanting that?

And if that's not in alignment, you won't keep doing it. You won't be motivated to do it. Which is why many people aren't motivated to build the empire, although they keep telling themselves they wanna build this empire 70 5K months, a hundred K months, and they really actually don't want it. They don't want it.

They don't want the responsibility. They don't want. The headache of it. They don't want to build a team. Like those are all things that are real and valid that often live in the subconscious that we don't even know are there until we do this work, until we really get clear on this work. And so today what I want us to do is take that [00:09:00] list of doubts and whatnot, that we are telling ourselves that the success that we've created to date is not transferable or applicable to what we're creating.

Now, I want us to take that and then I want us to use. All of the evidence that we collected over the last week around our expression, around our time, around our money, I want us to now really get honest with ourselves about why we don't believe that's possible. So if, if you're somebody who's like, you know, I want to create meaningful work around nutrition and ho like holistic healing for women, but.

I don't actually believe that I can do that because I don't have the experience yet, or the work that I've been doing is in this field. It's kind of a bridge or a leap into this field, or maybe you're saying [00:10:00] I have to be a marketer and a conversion copywriter. If I start to interlace things like astrology or human design, people just won't get it and it'll be confusing, and so I can't do that.

That's my own inner thoughts that I'm sharing with you, right? They're there. There's reasons why we don't think we, we can be the person we wanna be in order to be successful, right? So another one could be like, well, I'm really scientific, but I'm also really spiritual and I don't know how to merge those two things together.

I had a call with recently who. Is very Virgo energy. And I know I talked about not bringing astrology human designer genies into it, but I just want to give this example because when you do this work that I'm walking you through your chart and all the things are gonna make sense and it's just more of a validation than it is an outsourcing of your authority.

But this client came to me and she's like, I'm feeling this polar evolution in the work that I'm doing. And I said, okay, let me look at [00:11:00] your chart. Well, she's got this. Crazy St. Seum in her 11th host, Virgo. And I know this energy very well because I have a Stellium in Virgo as well. My mid heaven's there.

Her Midheaven was there, but she's got some, like she got her son there. She had Mercury there, like she was very prominently Virgo Energy. Now, Virgo Energy's very practical. It's grounded. It's about excellence and precision. It's not about quantity. Like churning out a bunch of quantity stuff with no real intention and no, they're Virgos are like, we want excellence.

We're aiming for excellence. But she was being pulled to bring her work out in a more creative and playful way. What's interesting is her south node was in Virgo in the 11th house, which is a thing we're kind of moving away from in life. It's very karmic, but we're moving away from that. So. She got the evidence and the life experience and the wisdom and the knowledge that she needed up until that point in her life where she was very [00:12:00] practical and grounded and strives for excellence and precision in the work that she's doing.

But now she's being asked to shift into making the work that she does, playful and creative and intuitive. So bridging that gap of intuition and practical, grounded. Strategy. Her north node was in the fifth house of Pisces. North node is where we're moving to dialing up of energy. So she's being asked to dial up that energy of creative self-expression and play.

What's wild about it is a lot of the women that she works with are, they have the perfect life on paper. They've created the success, but they're hitting these points of burnout. So they're overworking, overgiving, overdelivering, well. It's so, makes sense because she's Virgo. So people see this like striving for excellence, this precision, right?

I have Virgo. I'm very much the same [00:13:00] way. I can over give and over deliver in a lot of ways. And my standard is so high that there's this striving for perfectionism that's. Off the charts in a lot of ways. And so that striving for perfectionism and excellence can often lead to burnout. So it makes total sense that she's attracting people that are in this phase of like high achiever.

Everything looks good on paper, got this like. Perfect career, perfect life, whatever it is, Virgo Energy. But I might be dying a bit inside, or I've hit this state of burnout, or I can't keep going the way I'm going. Her north node is going, okay, great. Now let's merge and blend this work around burnout, around perfectionism, around perfect life and make it fun and playful, right?

Because burnout isn't something that's fun. So how can we. Integrate what we're doing intuitively right, and [00:14:00] that Virgo energy definitely is asking for intuition in a lot of ways because likely we've pushed ourselves so hard for what we feel is perfection. And we've probably sacrificed our intuition, and that's my story that I'm sharing.

But I resonated a lot with what I was seeing in her chart. So. I don't want to go down the the astrology rabbit hole too much because I want you to go through this process without necessarily crutching on these systems. So I want you to take a look at where you feel like you can't be yourself fully and wholly in what you're doing.

Maybe you're very scientific and now you're merging this intuition piece and it's like, what are people gonna think? Right? So. Where is that happening? Where do I feel like I can't actually spend the time on the things that I want and and receive the payment? There's usually a [00:15:00] disconnect between time and payment, right?

Particularly in this world where we are conditioned to work and trade time for money, so we will naturally sacrifice our time to make money That's just naturally ingrained in our society, so it's really hard to untangle that. Particularly if you're not wanting to trade your time for money, particularly if you are trying to break F free from that sort of system, particularly if the things that you value in life are to live life, to experience life, to not be confined to a nine to five job.

Trading your time for money only to be able to enjoy retirement. When it, when it comes, if it comes right, that you're looking more for that freedom. Now, again, this isn't the illusion. This, there are things you need to do in order to cover your basic needs and desires. And I talked about that on the last episode, like let's not bypass that part of it.

But what I want you to do is really get clear on [00:16:00] why you think this isn't possible. All of the reasons why you think it's not possible. So then by the end of today, you're gonna have this list of why you don't think your success is transferable and why you think who you are, the time that you wanna spend, what you value, what matters to you, and how you wanna receive money in order to be able to live out those values are not possible.

And then what I want you to do is. I want you to again, go out and identify people who are proving your limiting thoughts and beliefs wrong, because oftentimes we have these limiting beliefs from our conditioning, our subconscious, our upbringing, generational stuff, you name it, right? It's ingrained within us, and we get fixed on that.

We think, oh, it's not possible. But I want you to expand your [00:17:00] worldview by finding people that prove that what you're saying isn't true. And there's many people out there, there's many people out there. And so if you have this really big, long running list, oftentimes there's themes, right? There's connection points.

They all sort of intertwine together. But I want you to find and expand your world view and find people that prove your theory wrong. And again, this is where a lot of. This work goes sideways because we have this list and it's like, great, how do I overcome it? Okay, let's get into somatic healing and tapping and all the things.

But it's like many of us are designed to need the proof. You might not be. You might be able to like, this list is great. I'm gonna go and start to like bust these limiting beliefs like nobody's business. But for many of us, we are wired to need proof that if we don't [00:18:00] see the proof around us. We're just gonna perpetuate that limiting belief, and I want you to expand your worldview and these people that you've discover are gonna expand it.

Then there's one other thing that I want you to do. This episode is a big one, right? So you're making the list of things that you don't believe you can be yourself, and you can't spend the time doing the things you want and and align with the values that you want, and you'll never make the money that you need in order to live out those values and your expression.

You've got that list. You've got the list of success, things that don't transfer. Now I want you to expand your worldview and find people. That means you might need to read or find books or whatever. You can ask chat pt. You can ask Claude, Hey, here's the success things I don't think are transferable. Here are all the reasons why I don't think I can live out my expression.

Can you name 10 people that are living that are proving these wrong? And I want you to [00:19:00] go and look and see what they're doing and consume and be in their world. Again, not from a place of. Comparison or emulation or outsourcing, but we need to put ourselves in ecosystems and surround ourselves with people to expand our worldview, or we, or we won't.

We'll just stay stuck where we are. But the other thing that I want to really preface here is if you have the courage, and I recommend that you do. I want you to reach out to two to three of them and I want you to start a conversation with them and I want you to share what you're doing and I want you, if you can get on a call with them, if you can have a conversation with them, whatever it is.

If you have a podcast and you want to get them on your podcast, like whatever it is, I want you to be in conversation with them. 'cause they're going to give you insight, particularly around what you think isn't possible for you. So that's the next step that I want you to take. And then we're gonna tie this all together on next week's episode.

And then on the fifth [00:20:00] episode of this, I actually have a really special guest that is gonna help you tap into a realm within yourself that is just really magical. That's going to start to even further expand your worldview, your imagination, help you sit even more. In liminal space and tap into your intuition, which I think all of this work is all tied into.

So with that, I hope this episode has been helpful. Cheers. 

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